139. How I manifested my man

You are the creator of your life! In this episode I take you through the exact strategy I used to Manifest my boyfriend, and explain the essential role of VOICE!

Transcript

Hellooo, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, wherever you are in the world and whatever you’re celebrating at the moment welcome to That Voice Podcast.

If you’re here for the first time, what an episode to land on, I’m going to be sharing the story of how I manifested my man Patrick  and how you can manifest magic in your life – however that looks for you – health, business, property, love etc – the common thread – your voice.

If you’re a long time listener, welcome back.

You know I’m not a surface level voice coach. I believe in teaching voice from the inside out, it’s about accessing and igniting the voice deep within you, so it’s something you don’t just hear you feel.

And your voice being the organ of your soul means it’s a powerful tool to use in manifestation. You’ve gotta come along to my workshop Manifest with Your Voice, it’s on January 10th (new date – I had originally planned it for December, and so many people were like Sal I’m away, I’m on holidays) so I’m like yeah, let’s do it on January 10th – everybody’s back. It’s at 9.30am that’s Brisbane time, AEST.

I’ve been using my voice as a manifestation tool pretty much since I manifested my boyfriend Patrick about four years ago. And I’m going to share the story. The thing is I’ve used this same technique to manifest so much great stuff this year, including a new apartment that is so perfect, the synchronicities were amazing with this. Also exciting collaborations with different businesses that were on my voice well before the deal was done, and I realised a manifestation I set a couple of years ago regarding my business revenue has also come into my reality – a number which seemed way out of control at the time I spoke it.

So if you want to have a clear plan on how to literally call amazing things into your life – and experience a true connection with your voice in the process – come to Manifest with your Voice. It’s only 22 dollars, and seriously if you want to stop complaining and comparing and become the maestro of your manifestation, it is a teeny tiny investment to learn strategies that can give you the life you want. I’m grateful to have lots of high achieving, amazing successful people around me and something they all have in common is they all invest in themselves with a hell yess energy – and they set intentions, they consciously manifest.

And this is something I had no idea about a few years ago. And I want to mention the reason I say consciously manifest is because everyone is manifesting their life, we are the creators. Perception is projection – our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. It’s just some people aren’t aware that they are doing this.

And that was me, circa 2016, 17. I just could not work out how I couldn’t find a decent guy. All guys were hopeless. Why weren’t they into me. I had a beautiful apartment, an education, a pretty good job, a pair of double d’s that still looked fucking amazing in lingerie and legs made for high heels, what was there not to like. And this made me angry, like to the point where every single day I would verbalise how much I hated fucking men. I would be washing my hair in the shower and out of mouth would be ‘God men are the worst.’ I remember a conversation with my best friend during what we called a Prosecco Haze. Which basically meant we drank prosecco the entire day – my relationship with alcohol has also changed big time – check out episode 134 - who are you as a speaker.

Anyway the whole conversation was mate Men, what the fuck, fucking disaster. All fucking psychopaths, narcissists, mysogynists – it become like a man-hating tongue twister.

So this was how I thought and what I said.

How on earth was I not finding an amazing, loving, non-dickhead, non-narcissistic, non-psycopathic man amid all this. Riddle me that.

And I guess is came to a head I suppose, when I was seeing someone and it seemed like it could go somewhere and he invited me away and then the night before we were supposed to go he rang me and was like ‘yeh I realised I don’t really like you so I don’t think we should go.’ Ouch. Rejection. I was so cut up about it, and the thing was I didn’t even really like the guy he wasn’t what I was looking for. And I share more about that story in episode 75 called How to Rally from Rejection.

And it became abundantly clear that I had nothing was clear.

I wasn’t clear on who the fuck I was, where my boundaries were and what I was looking for.

So I wrote it down. Not as a list. As a diary entry type thing.

It was in the present tense – so I have a relationship that is, My man is

and it included facts and feelings. Not just he prioritises me, I feel so safe around him because I know he puts me first and protects me. That kind of things.

So I wrote it out, and I read it out. Not like this you know. I voiced it with the emotion I imagined feeling as if that relationship was my current state, as if he was my boyfriend.

It began with “I am so bloody happy and grateful to be in a relationship that makes my heart sing …” etc etc.

And I recorded that to my phone.

And I played that while I was pottering around the house, in the morning, in the evening.

And for a while I was feeling really great. My business was just starting at the time too so I was stepping into my Queendom becoming more positive about dating. I wasn’t saying Fuck I hate men in the shower, I was listening to my future self story and I would even dramatically read it out aloud from time to time like I was rehearsing for some kind of Shakespearean play.

I lived alone, I could do this weird stuff.

Anyway, it wasn’t all smooth sailing, and I had my days.

And one day while I was crying in bed. Literally. Spiralling into the depths of my own pity party. Why doesn’t anybody love me? I’m such a piece of shit. Anyway the universe sent me a podcast episode from Kathrin Zenkina who is the manifestation Babe, and she was talking about how she met her now husband on Tinder.

Now at the time I was on Bumble and Hinge and I’d deleted Tinder. Then I thought oh I actually hadn’t had sex for a while at this stage, it was a couple of months, which felt like a long time for me and I thought oh what the hell, I’ll download the old Tinder and see if I can get some action. And hey you never know. ..

Before long I matched with Patrick. Now of course when I swiped him I didn’t know what it would grow into. In his photos he just looked like he knew what he was doing, not in a wanky way, in like a manly, this man knows what he’s about kind of vibe.

Anyway, we met for coffee, then we met for wine, then I got a throat infection and he made me chicken soup at his house which killed a couple of red flag birds at once. Because he was sweet in looking after me and it was clear by the furnishings or lack thereof that a woman had not been near that place in a long time. The throat infection was from a weekend drinking with my friends, not from what you might be thinking.

This episode is not the love story. This episode is about the manifestation.

So let’s skip to a about three or four months in. You know that time when you pretty much know if it’s going to be a thing. And I came across the document, my man manifesto, and I’m not even joking every single thing I wrote down. This was two and a half pages people, and I made it so specific, even in terms of height and body shape and drinking preferences and travel styles and someone who didn’t want kids, but also didn’t have little kids. You know it was pretty specific, because why not. If we’re not setting out intention we’re playing golf  in the dark, you don’t know where you’re hitting. A mindset coach friend of mine called Ben shared that one with me. If you’re not putting an order into the universe you lose control over what you’re getting. And of course we can’t control everything, in fact letting go of the how and trusting the universe will bring us what we want or better is important. It’s also important to know who you are and what you want.

When it comes to the relationship, I have no doubt in my mind that that activity of writing it, voicing it, recording it, listening to it, performing it – coded it into my body, put the order into the universe. Patrick had only been on Tinder for like a few weeks. He’s like online dating is easy. I was like I manifested you. And of course he manifested me too. Mine was just a hell of a lot more intentional.

There is no way an amazing man like him, who is clear on what he wants, would have come into my world if I was the girl saying ‘fuck I hate men’ everyday. That version of me, would have repelled a man like him.

Our relationship isn’t perfect. It’s had it’s ups and downs, yet here we are almost four years down the track and everything I manifested rings true.

So decide what you want.

Get clear on what you want.

And VOICE what you want.

In the present tense, with meaningful congruent expression.

Record it. Listen to it. Recite it like you’re a Hollywood actor playing your god damn future self.

This is just one of the ways I’ve used my voice to manifest, and my relationship is just one of the things I’ve manifested.

I feel like voice is the missing link in manifestation. You can do all the journaling and meditating and candle gazing, but without the vibration of your voice how can you match the vibration of your dreams.

This is why I’m so passionate about helping you physically, emotionally and spiritually connect with your voice. And if that’s important to you. You have to be at Manifest with Your Voice. In this workshop I’ll be taking it from the top for you. We’ll do an exercise to embody your true soul voice, I’ll teach you how to raise your vocal vibrations, I’ll share my tips on what to say and how to say your intentions and I’ll guide you through creating your own sound board – this is the big sister of the vision board. Manifes with your Voice. It’s at 9.30am AEST Brisbane time on Jan 10th, the replay is available if you can’t make it live, although I will be answering questions so live is where you wanna be.

Thanks so much for tuning in. I know many of you are on holidays, so hope you’re resting and recharging to make 2023 YOUR YEAR.

Please DM me on insta or share this episode and tag me. I ran it all past Patrick so it’s above board, I hope you enjoyed getting to know a little of the backstory, there’s stuff in here that my family don’t even know, and I’m sharing it with you to show that you can change your thinking, and with a little strategy and a lot of VOICE you can bring magic into your life.

Lots of love, Chat to you in the new year.